DATING & CULTURE
How Do You Know You’re Meeting The Right Latina?
Are you trying to find a date or are you trying to find The One?
Whether it’s the former or the latter, we all would rather be with someone who we are compatible with. You don’t want to end up like some of your friends who have sad dating stories, especially those who are on Tinder all the time. What you want is probably something a little better than that. Scratch that — a lot better than that!
You, like a host of other men, are into Latina women. And for good reason. Latinas readily embrace their femininity and are known to be very passionate. A lot of them are also very attractive, making them some of the most desirable women in the world.
Your main challenge is that you’re not Latino. But fret not. Being in an interracial relationship isn’t a huge deal for the Latin community since it’s becoming more and more common, according to a thesis submitted to the Graduate Faculty of St. Cloud State University back in 2015.
So you go online, survey for profiles matching your wish list, and set up a date or two. But that’s just step one.
So how do you make sure she’s the right dating partner?
How would you know if the one you’re currently seeing is even date material? How do you figure out if she’s the perfect woman for you during the early stages of the relationship?
Here’s how:
1. When you’re being yourself with her
For those who are hopeful at finding their Latina soulmate, wedding officiant and author Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway says “Soulmates often feel a sense of the familiar and a sense of comfort around each other. Many people say it’s easier to relax into that person and allow themselves to be vulnerable.”
With this, it is a known fact that couples are marginally happier whenever they are being themselves with each other. “If you’re true to yourself, it is easier to act in ways that build intimacy in relationships, and that’s going to make your relationship more fulfilling.” says Amy Brunell, an Ohio State University professor.
Being comfortable enough that you can laugh nonstop, be goofy, be sad or be introspective means you’ve developed a high level of trust with her. Women from Latin countries are generally warmer than some but it’s especially significant when the woman you’re with gets you to do these kinds of things.
If you find yourself easily reverting to your normal self instead of the usual facade we all often put on in front of strangers, then maybe this woman might be The One indeed.
2. When you feel protective of her
Picture this: You’re at a salsa club, burning up the dance floor with your suave footwork. Sweat is pouring down your neck, and rolling into her arms which are wrapped firmly around you.
That’s when you catch an unsavory-looking character undressing your date with his eyes. Is your first instinct to carry on and imagine it’s not happening?
Or does your inner machismo tell you to either get the heck out of that club or sternly request that man to distance himself by around a hundred miles from you and your girl?
That’s a sign that your inner protectiveness is kicking in.
Try to see if you fall into any of these categories.
- Unafraid of defending her
- Happy to be her moral support
- Always willing to soothe her fears
- Taking her to the doctor
- Encouraging her to take self-defense
- Not liking when she has to walk home alone at night (although that’s a given)
- When you tell her “text me when you get there”
- Cautious and aware of both of your surroundings
- Calling an Uber for her or taking her home yourself
- Thinking about buying her a taser
- Arm almost always around her waist when outside
- Supportive of her success
- Wanting her to be independent
- Feeling hurt whenever she gets hurt
- Taking care of her when she’s ill
- Getting upset when she’s reckless
If you ticked out a majority from this list, then you might have grown very fond of her to the point of being protective. While it’s in a man’s innate nature to be the protector, it gets especially intense when it’s towards the woman he loves.
Could you be falling hard for this woman too?
3. The level of understanding you have for each other
You might not be able to speak Spanish, but you understand each other to a tee.
Everyone understands that love takes work, right?
Even if you end up meeting The One and sparks instantly fly, love sometimes will still fade. At least to a certain degree it’s like that. There is still a very beautiful connection but after a while, you will start to realize you’re different people and that you constantly have to understand one another and work for it.
“I believe in soulmates to an extent. When you meet someone that you just click with on many levels and things feel easy with them and you feel very happy and fulfilled, this can be a soulmate type of feeling. I don’t think there is only one; there can be many people in the world that you would click with if you met them.” says psychologist Samantha Rodman.
She continues by saying no matter how happy you are or how compatible you might be with your soulmate, you will still have to work on being a couple
To summarize, even if you do meet your soulmate somewhere in Latin America it doesn’t mean that you’re going to keep on clicking forever. There is still going to be loads and loads of learning and plenty of hard work to keep the relationship as strong as you want it to be.
4. The dopamine rush when you’re with her
There’s no mistaking the rush you get when with Latino women. Even while they are known for their unbridled passion, you can definitely tell if what you are feeling for her is real.
Do you feel the undeniable pull when you’re with her? Are you outrageously happy whenever you’re just talking to her? Is dopamine rushing through you when you find yourself spending time with her?
You’re in love then.
You feel all of those things because your body is also literally on a love chemical rush. The dopamine rush you experience creates an intense feeling of craving and is why some people randomly write their crush’s name on a piece of paper during a meeting. The chemical rush lights up areas in your brain, similar to the feeling of an addition but evidently milder.
This simply means you can’t get enough of each other.
Is she The One?
Okay, so you’ve determined that a lot of the aforementioned ticked off boxes. You realized that you like your current date more than you’d expect. You also noticed that she likes you the same way and she might want to make things work.
But is this Latina really The One? If so, how do you know this?
The only way for you to know is by checking if you both fit any of the ones on the list below:
- The dating experiences you hear from your friends sound sad to you
- Other women aren’t as attractive to you anymore
- You find yourself sharing your stories with her
- She gets excited hearing from you and your stories
- You daydream about her and smile
- You have your own love language
- You notice that Latinas exert more effort in their looks so you do a lot of effort to look better for her
- You want to BE better for her
- You two accept the worst parts of each other
- You are able to picture a long-term future together
- You can easily talk about your problems with her
- Your willingness to apologize to her is greater than with anyone else
- Easily communicating your sexual desires with her
- Putting her needs first
- Every decision you make, you make sure is in her best interest
It’s okay if she isn’t
Look. Dating is most often viewed as a trial and error game for us humans. After all, what you’re doing is finding an ideal life partner, getting to know them and then moving along if she isn’t ideal. The fact that you’re looking for The One outside the U.S. and towards Latin countries doesn’t change this.
And that’s okay.
As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea. If she didn’t work well with you then there is someone out there that inevitably will.
So chin up. She’s out there somewhere.
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